Monday, 2 January 2017

Crossover Yawa

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2016 was a good year. Dasall.
And I had to suck it in and wear my big girl pants and face my numerous fears... turns out they were all mirages! Funny how life works sometimes...okay maybe not funny lol.
Straight to my gist. My friend's boyfriend who in my opinion is a mistake not because he's a bad person but because he projects his worst fears on her and is limiting in nature... from what I understand about this thing called marriage, whatever you see right now will be magnified by 100 in marriage. The married folks can confirm that if they choose to.
Anyways, she tells me on new year day that her boyfriend is really upset with me, he felt disrespected because of what I said or how I said it, he has vowed not to ever talk to me again etc.
My face went blank... I was like shuo🙄🙄🙄, on top wetin exactly? what did I say that was bigger than mouth? Then I faced my friend and asked her directly if she thought I was actually disrespectful to him, she said she knows I wasn't and she's been trying to explain that to him but he wouldn't listen.
Now for those that don't know me, I am boisterous, outspoken, extremely direct and very full on!
I guess you can say I can threaten your confidence if you hardly have any. Oh let's not forget that when I'm passionate about something; a course or whatever, I can be downright aggressive(not exactly super-cool) but that is who I am and I own it like a bawse.
The truth is in my world, the only reason he exists(in my world) is because of my friend...at the end of the day, she's made her choice my opinion about him can easily be shoved where the sun don't shine!!!
So what did I do? I sent him a message through her letting him know that I will never knowingly disrespect him and I apologised(surprise!😳) for offending him.
I am growing and I know it. Now I'm off to learn to tone down my aggression😂😂😂!!!
Happy New Year.



Monday, 15 August 2016

Get Out Of That Funk; Destroy The Source

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The other day I seasoned chicken and forgot to put it in the fridge... it is summer here so it doesn't take too long for perishable food to turn bad. Luckily I discovered on time and I quickly boiled and grilled it.
But I noticed there were flies all over the place and I just couldn't fathom why or what caused it seeing that I've already cooked the chicken.
I suddenly looked in the corner of the table top and found the bowl I used to season the chicken...that was the culprit. Still don't know how I missed it but right after washing this off, the flies probably got bored and left (party is over flies!)
Then it occurred to me that this is how life plays out, we fire-fight sometimes trying to solve little problems or even big problems that keeps popping up like boils in unwanted regions.
If we deal with the root cause of this issue(s)... the source of this problem(s)... then just maybe we will be able to win the war and not just a battle.
It is time to enquire and discover the source of that problem, don't go about in circle round a mountain that ought to really be destroyed to pave the way for your new beginning.
It could be anything at all that consistently or constantly rears its ugly head when it is not wanted. Bad habits, depression name it. 
There's always a trigger for flies to invade so my lovelies attack the source of that fly, destroy it and see beautiful changes in your life.

Selah.


            

Wednesday, 10 August 2016

When Motivation Dies...What To Do When You're Losing Your Motivation.

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Before I tell you about the quote that inspired this post, I just want to share that I've been around this loss of motivation mountain many times over and I heard this quote and it resonated with me in ways even I myself couldn't imagine.
Now here's the thing, it isn't enough to be talented, it is important to actually develop your skill (whatever that is) and this is done mostly via, practice, training and discipline.
When motivation dies...Let discipline take over...yes that was quote I read and it is so apt I could write a whole book on that(but I won't..yet).
Sometimes it feels like there's no reason to complete that project, that task you've set for yourself but you need to be disciplined enough to complete it.
Discipline is not a switch to put on or off although with time, it may become so.
Discipline builds up as a result of deliberate and consistent actions taken over a course of time.
Don't let anybody fool you, working smart is good but working hard is important. People hardly tell you how hard they worked to achieve their goals, some gloss over it, some make it sound like it's a picnic. It may be and it may not be but you need to be determined in your heart that regardless of how hard or easy it is, you will remain consistent and focused.
And so on days like this when I'm not exactly motivated to do what I really ought to be doing...I let discipline take over and guess what...it works!!!
Doesn't matter if I'm moving via motivation or discipline what matters is I'm moving and the task has been accomplished.


           

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Fela Durotoye Prays For Nigeria - Join in

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I'm calling all lovers of Nigeria to please join this amazing initiative that is catching on like wild fire.
It is a prayer chain for Nigeria.

Background:
I was busy minding my business and job hunting as I'm currently between jobs(that's another blogpost, will keep you updated on that) when I got a notification from Periscope that Fela Durotoye has logged on. 
I wasn't even following him on Periscope at that point in time, but I was too curious to ignore the notification (I wonder why I got the notification). Anyways my curiosity got the better part of me and I decided to join the 'scope. 
In the 'scope, he said that God told him to pray for Nigeria for 49days ie 7weeks at every watch hour... watch-hour: apparently it is believed that watch hours are times the heavens open to earth ie 12midnight,3a.m, 6a.m.9a.m,12noon,3p.m and 9p.m by the way I'm not hear to debate or argue with you about the truth in that or not. All I know is, I believe in this particular initiative and I believe doors will open to make Nigeria better.
It is also beneficial to participants but this post is not about me so I will elaborate in my next post. It takes only 3minutes of your time and the prayers are just the second stanza of the national anthem and the pledge plus a prayer he calls the Gemstone Creed(I maybe wrong) but the prayer makes sense.
If you want to be part of this initiative, follow Fela Durotoye on Periscope see you @ 6pm tonight!

Thursday, 28 April 2016

The Way We Are... Tiwa Savage & Tee Billz meltdown

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Sometimes I read people's comments on events and issues and I sincerely want to pluck out their eyes! Like really!!!
Where in the world is your heart of compassion, what makes people think they can just go on people's page,post, Instagram whatever and just spew forth jargons! Making nasty, horrible, unmentionable comments under the cloak of anonymity!
A friend sent me the Tee Billz posts this morning but I didn't even take much notice, I just went about my normal business of the day till someone's comment on Twitter popped in my line of vision.
I wasn't a happy chappy, because as usual, it was distasteful and uncalled for.
Dear fellow Nigerians or should I say Dear people of the world, depression is real and this guy; Tee Bill just had a meltdown and a soulless being had the guts to say they should have let him jump. WOW! Again WOW! Some people are just filled with slime. You are not that anonymous and I tell you if you were to be traced, you will be found in seconds!
Can we just learn to show empathy as a nation? Regardless of what he did or did not do, he is first a human being. Thankful for people who went over to help rescue him, the likes of BankyW and one the Okoye twins. I pray you Tee Billz get the help you need and I pray that tides will turn for you in a positive way hence forth.
I feel so sorry for Tiwa Savage, because as usual tongues that know nada about the science of the Balogun household are wagging unnecessarily but I'm positive she's a strong woman and she will pull through for her family.
Regardless of what was said or wasn't said, can we just let this couple fix up without the nasty meddling of outsiders who have no clue?